Can you believe that we are wrapping up the first quarter of the year already? Again, where does the time even go? I keep on thinking to myself that 2010 is a new year... but it hit me today that its not so new anymore. In fact, its getting pretty old... 3 months old.
How has the year treated you so far?
For me, its been... okay. Yes... just okay.
The job searching continues and hearing/seeing the news about the job market everyday is sort of depressing. If you're currently employed, then consider yourself lucky. There are many people out there struggling and fighting for most any job that comes available on the market. About 2,300 teachers and 600 nurses were pink slipped last week in California alone. These are people who are educated, experienced, and devote their lives to better the community. If this doesn't worry you, then I don't know what does.
It is easy to tell people "don't worry, things will get better" when you are not in their shoes. How do we not worry? How are you so sure that things will get better from the looks of where everything is headed right now? Yes, its great to be optimistic, but you also have to be realistic. Its wonderful to hope, but don't give false hopes to those who are struggling. Having expectations will only set you up for disappointment... and with that, a sense of failure.
Don't assume that people are "lazy" or "unmotivated" unless you sit there next to them 24/7. Job searching and applying can often be more work than someone who has work. There are people who put in 12-16 hours of job searching and mass submitting their resumes in a day and still struggle to get one response by the end of the week. I put in about 3-6 hours of job searching a day and am just now hearing back from an employer I contacted back in January. I know that the hour count doesn't sound like a lot to you and you probably wonder what I am doing with the rest of my time, right? Well, I can honestly say that I spend the other times balancing the internal depression by doing things that make me happier to keep me sane for the moment.
"How can I be there for someone going through the same thing you are?"
By being there for someone who is going through these hardships, you can just listen when they need to speak or vent. Try to understand their situation and struggles without judgment or criticism with the "you should have...." and the "I told you so...". OH... and if you do happen to ask someone about their progress and hearing that they are not doing so well, please refrain yourself from boasting about how awesome or fantabulous your life or career is at the moment. We probably do want to hear about it and more than likely, we are HAPPY for you... really. Its just a rub/smack in the face to those who are less fortunate in that area... no matter how unintentional it is. I'm sure a lot of people understand this already, especially if they were ever on that short end of the stick. But you'd be surprised at how inconsiderate and self-centered people can come across for saying these things. I'm not saying that you have to mope and be depressed with the unemployed, but just take a moment to step into their shoes and try to empathize. OH... and don't make a fuss about the bad coffee at your workplace or make it sound like being in a two hour long meeting is the end of your world because either way, its NOT the end of your world. The person listening to you would feel privileged to have a place to call a workplace or have a meeting they must attend. Again, empathize.
I don't know how others feel, but for me, I don't like to talk to others about the situation because it is depressing. I am usually a happy person and I like to talk about the happier moments (hence the fact that I often reminisce of my past) and the other aspects in life that makes me happy. Unemployment, job searching, the market are all depressing and trust me... it is constantly on my mind. Its on my mind when it doesn't seem like it is. Its on my mind even when I talk about unrelated topics. Its on my mind when I shop. Its on my mind with I am with my Family. Its on my mind when I am with my Friends. Its on my mind when I am alone. Its on my mind when I eat. Its on my mind when I shower. Its on my mind when I blog. Trust me... its on my mind. Its on my mind so much that I just want a distraction or an escape from the reality of it all. This is probably why I blog about other things that make me happy (family, friends, fashion, makeup, shopping, celebrities)... I just need something that will try to take my mind off from the depression I feel caused by this... even if its only for a few minutes or a couple hours of my day.
Now that I put it all out there and let you all know what I am going through at the moment, I hope you have a better understanding of me. Those who know me personally can testify that I am a "bubbly" yet VERY emotional person. I may seem happy at almost all times because I choose to be that way and I want to be just that... happy. It is easy to put on a facade and try to convince others (and myself) that my head is always held high and my life is perfect... but I am not an actress. I am vulnerable and I am fragile.
Most importantly, I am REAL.